Life is funny, isn’t it? As kids, you were anxious to become adults and make decisions all by yourself, while as adults you often wish you had no decisions to make. Being an adult is not easy, but no one can stay a kid forever. True, you will always be your “mama’s baby,” but in a healthy way. Not in the sense that you behave like a grown baby, running from responsibility because it is too hard, too scary, or because your feelings were hurt. Yep, there comes a time in life when you have to grow up. It’s a part of being a grownup.
As kids, your choices were limited. If your Dad accepted a job out of state, you moved. You wore the clothes your mom could afford, ate the food she cooked and on Sundays you went to church. At least that’s how it worked in my house. Adulthood, however, is all about choices. You have the freedom to make decisions for yourself, reap the consequence—good or bad and then take responsibility for your actions. Ah, responsibility! Most adults dislike that part. It is the part you did not consider when you were a teen and the reason you shy away from certain choices as an adult, which sucks because not choosing is still a choice, for which you are responsible.
Geez! This is complicated. Work with me now!
The point I am trying to make is that you always have a choice. You have choices. They are a part of the ‘adult package’. And you are responsible for your choices. Even the ones you do not make. So choose wisely. It is important you realize this. As an adult, you are always making choices (consciously or unconsciously) and your growth is connected to your ability to make them responsibly and take responsibility for them. When you don’t, you play victim to the circumstances of your life and dismiss the choices (or lack thereof) you made that played a role in them.
Cain’s life is a good example. He made a choice that God rejected (Genesis 4:3-7), killed his brother out of jealousy of his choice (V.8), lied about it (V.9), and then whinnied about his punishment. (V. 13 – 14) Read the full story in Genesis chapter four. I can only imagine the nightmare his life must have been if he did not learn from his experience. Thankfully, it is recorded so that you and I can.
The reality is, Cain had options and you do too. In every situation.
You do not have to accept the first thing that comes to mind and you don’t have to shy away from difficult decisions. Ask God for help and let him instruct you in what is right and acceptable, and then trust his instruction. Even when it terrifies you. That is what separates the grownups from the kids and is ultimately, what leads to maturity.
“All things are lawful, but not all things are profitable. All things are lawful, but not all things edify.”
(1 Corinthians 10:23 NASB)
“In all your ways acknowledge Him, and He will make your paths straight.”